‘Even when it’s hard to appreciate goodness in someone, we can send lovingkindness anyway. At first we might feel fake or irritated; our good wishes may feel hollow or flat. But if we can regard those feelings with kindness and continue the practice, a surprising thing happens. By simply offering care, our care begins to wake up.‘ (Radical Forgiveness)
Perhaps you are sceptical about this claim. I did not start out my practice believing this kind of thing. But I invite you to try it for yourself and see. What do you have to lose, anyway?