‘Here is what I suggest to my own students who are uncertain about what to do next in their spiritual practice: In addition to weighing the pros and cons of different teachers and communities, I ask them to pay close attention to the teachings themselves. They are of utmost importance. Do they mean something to you? Ask yourself over and over, what will deepen my personal practice? And then do that. Of course, if anyone tries to con you into thinking that they know you better than you know yourself, have a magical system which you may access once you prove worthy, and classify any doubts as an indication that you just don’t get it, you should run the f away.’ (The Teacher-Student Relationship: Liberating or a Trap?)
I have enjoyed reading Susan Piver’s articles in various places online, as a down-to-earth and thoughtful observer on relationships of all kinds.