‘If we can allow ourselves the space and acceptance to be multifaceted, we will experience life to its fullest. Being human means facing suffering. There is no light without dark, no joy without sadness. If we don’t experience all feelings, we have no basis for comparison. If we run from certain emotions by staying busy, expressing fake positivity, or abusing mood-altering substances, we are cutting away half our existence. When we stop and honor difficult emotions, we have the opportunity to live fully and integrate all parts of ourselves. These feelings will torment us until we stop running from them—and from the truth of who we are.’ (from Medium)
Most days I browse through Medium; sometimes I find entries in the self-help section laughably glib, but there are many wise words to be found. This paragraph reminded me of a woman who was in a small group at Young Urban Zen one time, who announced firmly that she did not allow negative emotions into her life. I looked at her and saw a base of fear, not groundedness.