‘People have talked to me about how much they appreciated Lou, my late husband. My response has been, If you appreciated Lou, what were the qualities that you appreciated? Can you bring those qualities alive in yourself? If you enjoyed his humor, can you find your own humor and bring it out? If you enjoyed his kindness, can you cultivate your own kindness and bring it out? When you find that you appreciate someone, look into what is it that you like so much about that person. “Oh, I wonder if I could be like that. That’s pretty nice.”‘ (Seeds for a Boundless Life)
I appreciated Lou’s absolute commitment to living in sangha, and showing people how it was possible to do things mindfully, correctly, and whole-heartedly, without – at least in my case – making them feel that the effort they had been making was not good enough.