Shundo David Haye

‘It’s more complicated and riskier for us to meet a person fresh each time we see them. We humans like to know what we’re dealing with, and so it’s convenient for us to hold others to our impressions of them, even if those impressions are incomplete or biased. This limits us, it limits them, and it limits our relationship and the possibilities it can bring. It’s helpful, then, to be curious, especially with people we think we know or understand. Experiment with this. Try seeing someone you know as if they’re brand new to you. Don’t assume, Look for clues that they may be more than your opinion of them, that they might have another side, another layer beyond the limits you’ve imposed. (Finding Yourself in the Kitchen)